pride & prejudice + mr darcy’s declarations of love
god this joke is so meta
PSA about when someone you know decides to cut a parent out of their lives:
Please please please do not criticize their decision. It was not an easy thing to do, and it has probably been coming to this point for a very long time.
Do not tell them “things might change! Maybe your _____ will come to their senses!”
The odds are, if it’s gotten to this point, they have been given many chances through the years and have thrown every single one out the window.
Do not say “but they are your _____! You only get one!”
I only have one appendix, but if it’s toxic, I’m going to cut it out to save my life.
Do not say things like “you’re going to miss them when it’s time for (random event most parents should be part of)”
Yes, I will be slightly disappointed that my parent was unable to attend this important moment in my life, but the unfortunate truth is that they would have made this day difficult and uncomfortable for me.
DO NOT SAY “You’re lucky to have a ______ at all. Some people don’t. You’re wasting the chance to have a relationship many people wish they could have, but their _____ is no longer with them.”
That’s the thing though, that chance was never there. Just because my parent is alive doesn’t mean they are emotionally available, and to tell the truth, that’s almost worse. They are here and they can’t see past their own ignorance to try and have a civilized relationship with me. At least if they had passed away, and I’m not saying that I wish them dead or anything, I would have a valid and acceptable reason to not have them around. Instead I had to make a conscious and painful decision that goes against what most of society believes is right for the sake of my own mental health.
Please just support your friends in their decision to leave a Toxic person no matter who they may be. This is not easy and they are probably constantly arguing with themselves over whether or not they did the right thing. They need your love and support, not your criticism
This NEEDS to be shared.
My brother has told me so much about you. I feel as if we are friends already.
Finally married. Presenting the Chieftain & Chieftess of Berk. Hiccup Haddock and Astrid Hofferson.